I’m Not Going To Be Like Him by Maulud Sadiq

by Daddy Everyday Blog

Excerpt from Daddy Everyday

This was my mantra throughout my youth. Although I grew up knowing my father – a blessing many didn’t have – and even living with him off and on until graduating high school, the fact remained. He remarried and had other children; they were his priority. Because of this, the things that fathers teach their boys like how to tie a tie, how to throw a football or baseball, how to change oil or a tire – you name it – he didn’t teach me. I learned these things from my older brother, uncles, or friends. He never saw me play football, soccer, and basketball.  He never saw me play trombone. My father never saw me play MLK or sing in talent shows. He missed all of this. But not me. I’ll never miss my child’s life events like this. Twenty-two years later, in a new marriage with child on the way and a daughter who is growing up swiftly in another household over six hundred miles away, I understand my father much better. Unfortunately I am doing the same things that he did…